Friday, September 17, 2010

Do Thumb Rings Signal Bisexuality for Women?

Question:
I've heard that thumb rings are a way for a bisexual women to signal to the rest of the bisexual community that she swings both ways. Is this true? Are thumb rings an invitation for other bisexual women?


Answer:
It depends on the groups you hang out with, but as a general rule, no. Maybe at one time it did, but so many people wear thumb rings nowadays, that most of the time, it just means that the person wearing them just likes to accessorize. You might go to a club or a city where an informal code has been established, where certain accessories or articles of clothing are used as signals to the other people who are there, but that will be specific to that place or occasion. 


The signals can change from place to place and time to time, too. Remember in the 80's when an earring in the left ear meant a guy was gay? That quickly became a thing of the past when every rock star and celebrity started to wear them and the general population quickly followed suit. Mullets used to be a pretty good signal for lesbians in the 80's, too, until Nascar came around and every Billy Bob and their mother was sporting the stylish do. Then we had to resort to the skinny braids in our otherwise short hair and an ear cuff to put it out there...who knows what happened to that secret signal, but we don't miss that particular style one bit!


For a long time, gays and lesbians had to resort to subtle clues in order to identify one another. It was a safe way for them to find partners without having to out themselves to potentially dangerous people. Many of us still like the feeling of inclusion it brings when we display things like a rainbow sticker or a certain pendant. Feeling like an outsider in so many other aspects of our lives, it is a comfort when someone "in the know" recognizes our affiliation. But this isn't uncommon- Masons have their rings, football teams have their jerseys, affluent women have their Coach bags...it's everywhere you look.


Most of us would gladly discard the cool club signals we've had to use through the years in exchange for basic acceptance and the ability to live openly without fear of harassment, violence, or dirty looks.



Thursday, September 16, 2010

Why are Peaches Softer than Nectarines?

Question:
Why are peaches softer than nectarines?


Answer:
Is this a trick question? We did say we'd answer anything, though, so we're glad you asked!


We were going to say that comparing nectarines to peaches is like comparing apples to oranges. But to our great surprise, it's not. Beyond the whole citrus versus non-citrus thing making apples and oranges a good contrasting metaphor, peaches and nectarines are almost the same thing. The difference is in a recessive gene that gives a peach the fuzz and the nectarine the smooth shaved feel.


Like most fruit, peaches and nectarines have several different varieties, some of which are softer or firmer than others. Different varieties have fruit that clings to the pit and others have fruit that is free of the pit, which is called freestone. The varieties that are freestone tend to be softer than the cling varieties.


Most of us get our fruit from the grocery store, and more grocery stores carry freestone peaches which tend to be softer than the cling peaches. Nectarines are more prone to blight and other crop hazards, and the cling varieties tend to be most hearty, so that's what the grocery stores tend to carry, hence the impression that peaches are softer than nectarines.


Something we found during our extensive and intensive research is that once the fruit is picked it no longer ripens. It's actually getting softer because the flesh is breaking down (ie- it is rotting). Keeping the fruit in the refrigerator will slow down this process.
Peach
Nectarine

(Images courtesy of Photobucket.com)



Why Do So Many Lesbians Have Tattoos?

Question:
Why do so many lesbians have tattoos? Is it a sign to attract other lesbians? Is it a self-destructive tendency?

Answer:
This is a tough question. Why does anyone get a tattoo? We think that there are probably just as many reasons for getting a tattoo as there are people with tattoos, and this article by the BBC seems to back us up. People get tattoos as acts of rebellion, to feel sexy, to display their individuality, to display their affiliations, to get back at an ex, to show devotion, to mark their adulthood, to mark their youth, and everything else in between.

Like you, though, we have noticed that a larger percentage of our gay and lesbian friends have tattoos than our straight friends and when we went online to check that out we found that, at least according to vanishingtattoo.com, indeed, gays and lesbians do have a higher instance of tattoo than their straight counterparts.

As for why gays seem to have a higher instance of having tattoos, our guess is that it may have a lot to do with the fact that we are already breaking the boundaries of common society by being gay, so it isn't that much more of a reach to break other norms. And when we do select a tattoo, often it is a going to be an image or symbol that announces our sexual orientation to others. That's not always the case, though. Between us, The Lesbos, have five tattoos and none of them are lesbian or gay symbols. Some of the more popular lesbian tattoos are rainbow anything, two female signs, nautical stars, and the labrys.

Two Female Symbols
Nautical Stars

Tattoo of a Labrys

(Photos courtesy of Photobucket.com)

RE: DADT - How Will the Military Integrate Gays and Straights?

Question:
RE: Gays serving openly in the military.  How do you feel the issue of housing, showering etc. would be met?  Women and men military members don't live or bath together for the obvious reason of sexual attraction.  If gays are integrated with straights in this setting it would be very uncomfortable for straights.  However, if gays are in these types of situations together it would be the same as having female and males together.  What's the answer?


Answer:
At the risk of sounding glib, the answer is that it is already happening. There are more gays in the military than you probably would guess. They are already sharing showers and barracks with the rest of the troops.


Contrary to some people's fears, most gays are not on the prowl to recruit straight people into our ranks and we are capable of keeping our work life separate from our social lives. If anything, serving openly will allow gays and straights to establish their boundaries more clearly. A gay guy or woman isn't likely to hit on a straight person if they know they aren't interested. Taking that mystique away will probably be a breath of fresh air for those who are constantly afraid of dropping the soap in the shower!

Friday, September 10, 2010

DADT Ruled Unconstitutional by Riverside CA Judge!

This is a follow up post to the August 16, 2010 post where we provided information on DADT.


Yesterday brought some awesome news!


U.S. District Judge Virginia Phillips ruled that the policy violates the First Amendment rights of gays and lesbians. As part of her ruling, Phillips made a statement that said that DADT doesn't support military readiness and, in fact, has a "direct and deleterious effect" on the armed services.


The San Diego Gay and Lesbian News has a wonderful detailed article explaining how the Log Cabin Republicans came to challenge the policy and the process that preceded the decision to strike DADT as unconstitutional.


The next step is for Judge Phillips to issue an order to stop the enforcement of the unconstitutional policy.


Our hope is that it won't take our government and military leaders too long to implement the changes needed to get rid of this terrible policy once and for all.

Saturday, September 4, 2010

The Gay Hankie Code

No one asked this question, but we thought it was a fun one and we just thought we'd share this with you. For anyone who has ever been to a gay pride event or some gay bars and ever wondered about the bandannas. We snagged the below chart from GayCityUSA.com

There will be a quiz!

Happy Labor Day Weekend! Be safe!

The Lesbos



COLOR
WORN ON LEFT
WORN ON RIGHT
BLACK
heavy SM top
heavy SM bottom
GREY
bondage top
fit to be tied!
BLACK w/WHITE Check
safe sex top
safe sex bottom
GREY W/BLACK light SM top light SM bottom
GREY FLANNEL
owns a suit
likes men in suits
BLACK w/WHITE Stripe
likes black bottoms
likes black tops
CHARCOAL
latex fetish top
latex fetish bottom
BLACK VELVET
has/takes videos
will perform for the camera
BLUE, Light
wants head
cocksucker
BLUE, Robin's Egg
69er
anything but 69ing
BLUE, Medium
cop
copsucker
BLUE, Navy
fucker (top)
fuckee (bottom)
BLUE, Airforce
pilot/flight attendant
likes flyboys
BLUE, Light w/WHITE Stripe
sailor
lookin' for salty seamen
BLUE, Teal
cock & ball torturer
cock & ball torturee
RED
fist fucker
fist fuckee
RED w/WHITE Stripe
shaver
shavee
RED w/BLACK Stripe
furry bear
likes bears
MAROON
cuts
bleeds
RED, Dark
2-handed fister
2-handed fistee
PINK, Light
dildo fucker
dildo fuckee
PINK, Dark
tit torturer
tit torturee
MAUVE
into navel worshippers
has a navel fetish
FUSCHIA
spanker
spankee
MAGENTA
suck my pits
armpit freak
PURPLE
piercer
piercee
LAVENDER
likes drag queens
drag queen
YELLOW
pisser/WaterSports
piss freak
YELLOW, Pale
spits
drool crazy
MUSTARD
hung 8"+
wants 8"+
GOLD
two looking for one
one looking for two
YELLOW w/WHITE Stripe
likes Asian bottoms
likes Asian tops
GOLD LAME
likes muscleboy bottoms
likes muscleboy tops
ORANGE
anything anytime
nothing now (just cruising)
APRICOT
two tons o' fun
chubby chaser
CORAL
suck my toes
shrimper (sucks toes)
RUST
a cowboy
a cowboy's horse
GREEN, Kelly
hustler (for rent)
john (looking to buy)
GREEN, Hunter
daddy
orphan boy looking for daddy
OLIVE DRAB
military top
military bottom
GREEN, Lime
dines off tricks (food)
dinner plate (will buy dinner)
BEIGE
rimmer
rimmee
BROWN
scat top
scat bottom
BROWN LACE
uncut
likes uncut
BROWN SATIN
cut
likes cut
BROWN w/WHITE Stripe
likes latino bottoms
likes latino tops
WHITE
beat my meat (J/O)
I'll do us both (J/O)
HOLSTEIN
milker
milkee
CREAM
cums in condoms
sucks cum out of condoms
WHITE LACE
likes white bottoms
likes white tops
WHITE VELVET
voyeur (likes to watch)
will put on a show
BLUE, Light w/WHITE Dots
likes white suckers
likes to suck whites
BLUE, Light w/BLACK Dots
likes black suckers
likes to suck blacks
BLUE, Light w/BROWN Dots
likes latino suckers
likes to suck latinos
BLUE, Light w/YELLOW Dots
likes asian suckers
likes to suck asians
RED/WHITE GINGHAM
park sex top
park sex bottom
BROWN CORDUROY
headmaster
student
FUR
bestialist top
bestialist bottom
SILVER LAME
starfucker
celebrity
LEOPARD
has tattoos
likes tattoos
TAN
smokes cigars
likes cigars
TEDDY BEAR
cuddler
cuddlee
PAISLEY
wears boxer shorts
likes boxer shorts
UNION JACK
skinhead top
skinhead bottom
MOSQUITO NETTING
outdoor sex top
outdoor sex bottom
KEWPIE DOLL
chicken (under-aged)
chicken hawk (likes young adolescents)
DIRTY JOCKSTRAP
wears a dirty jock
sucks dirty jocks clean
DOILY
tearoom top (pours)
tearoom bottom (drinks)
ZIPLOC BAG
has drugs
looking for drugs
COCKTAIL NAPKIN
bartender
bar groupie
KLEENEX
stinks
sniffs
KEYS IN FRONT
has a car
looking for a ride
KEYS IN BACK
has a home
needs a place to stay
HOUNDSTOOTH
likes to nibble
willing to be bitten
CALICO
new in town
tourists welcome
TERRYCLOTH
bathhouse top
bathhouse bottom
WHITE w/MULTICOLOR Dots
hosting an orgy
looking for an orgy

Thursday, September 2, 2010

A question about toys.

Question 
Okay here it goes. Do all same sex couples (female ones) use a strap on? Or do they connect without toys at all?

Answer
It is a mix. It all depends on the couple and what they are both comfortable with. Some couples don't use them at all (finding them offensive or unnecessary) while some use them exclusively. However, most couples use them some of the time and other times use different methods of enjoyment and pleasure. It all comes down to pleasing the person you are with within both of your own comfort zones. The great part about lesbian sex is that almost all the time both parties come away happy because they are both so concerned about pleasing each other, usually multiple times (that is easier when it just women). I could go into more detail but this is a non erotic blog.