Question:
Dear Lesbos,
How do lesbians get pregnant? Do they have to sleep with a man to do it?
C
Answer: Lesbians get pregnant the same way any woman gets pregnant- sperm fertilizes an egg and it somehow finds it's way into her womb.
The difference between lesbians and straight women in regard to getting pregnant is access to sperm. Most lesbians don't have sex with men, so the traditional method is usually out for us. Some of us don't mind taking one for the team, but the vast majority would rather not have to have sex with a man just to get his sperm. That's when sperm donors come in handy. We know a lot of friends, including ourselves, who know the donor. But if you don't know anyone who is willing to provide you with the goods, there really are sperm banks out there where you can get some. You can even order it on line.
Once you have the sperm, insertion can be done at home using a kit you can easily order on line, or you can go to a doctor to have it inserted for you. Either way, you want to chart your ovulation cycle to make sure you insert the sperm at the right time. Sperm purchases and doctors visits can get expensive if you go at it hit or miss, and either way, you want to increase your odds of conception since you don't have sperm just laying around the house to keep trying with every month.
If you go through a sperm bank, most of the legal stuff with the donor is already taken care of. When the guy donates, he gives up parental rights and all responsibility is taken away.
If you are so lucky to have a generous person in your life who is willing to give you his sperm, protect both of you by having legal documentation drawn up that releases him from responsibility, and gives up his parental rights.
You should also find out what the laws are in your particular state or country on what rights are provided to the non-biological mother. In most places, the non-biological mother will need to adopt the baby, if it is even legal in your area, in order to have full legal parental rights established.
Finally- when you are ready to make the baby, just because there is a lot of planning to do, it doesn't mean it can't be a romantic moment for you and your partner. Sure, there may be a syringe and a bottle of foreign liquid involved, but you can adjust the lighting, play some music and do what you and your partner like to do to set the right mood.
Sounds rather fairytale like. In my godforsaken, narrow minded country, the thought alone is a crime. Although teen girls are publicly expressive and comfortable with displaying their affection for each other, but as soon as a child or legalities are involved, both can easily be thrown in jail. Sigh. But my girlfriend loves the idea.
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And yes lesbians can have children. We are simply limited by biology, legal matters and the occasional disapproving eye from a friend or family member. The first priority is to get your hands on the swimmers, sperm.
ReplyDeleteOption one: You do what traditional lesbians did, find a sperm donor you're personally familiar with. The donor usually tends to be homosexual too, or a very loving and close (hot) straight acquaintance. The end game is too end up with a fertilized egg in your womb. This includes to options 1: a trained physician could insert it for you, or option 2: you purchase an insertion kit and do it at home with your beautiful girlfriend, fiancée or wife. Ladies please remember to read the instructions. okay? okay. And have insane fun doing it.
The second option you have is to visit a sperm bank. Women are usually discouraged by this idea, because it removes the romance and intimacy out of it and creates a "shopping feel." Personally, I feel it a small price to pay to one day have your child running on the lawn while you and your partner marvel in the moments innocence and pure joy. I'd sacrifice whatever.
Your final option is adoption. I'm sure we've all heard of the terrible stories and empty promises that generate during an exhausting and life draining adoption. I met a woman, not so long ago that has the most heart breaking story any pair of ears can stand to hear. A black lesbian, with only 9000, no family and a body not healthy enough to carry another human being. nut she beat the odds, ladies. Went back to Ghana with a healthy ten year boy. Subsequently, she relocated to South Africa and now lives there with her wife and 3 children. Oooh, that reminds me, I need to e-mail her. So ladies anything is possible.
Don't forget to pray, love each other always and don't piss off any bureaucrats...
Riyoko
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ReplyDeletemy question do both the partners get pregnant at the same time or alternatively? nor just one goes through it ?
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